Personalised and meaningful ceremonies for any life-event.
Weddings and renewals
Are you preparing for a wedding and dreaming of a unique wedding ceremony, reflecting you and your partner’s personalities? Whatever your background, belief, sex and style preferences, I can help you in making your ceremony a unique event that fits you perfectly.
Are you young parents and is it your wish to welcome your little one in a memorable naming ceremony? Nowadays, family units can take any shape. I can help you in creating a contemporary ceremony that is truly yours.
When you are facing the end of life it can be helpful to start conversations with the people dear to you about your wishes. I can help facilitate these conversations, and create and hold ceremonies and rituals on the threshold of life and death.
Have you lost a loved one and would you like to celebrate their life in a dignified funeral ceremony? Together, we can create a beautiful ceremony that reflects the beliefs of the person that has passed away: religious, spiritual or secular.
Creates personalised ceremonies and rituals for moments that matter.
It’s my passion to create personalised and meaningful rituals for any life-event. By carefully listening to your personal stories and your ideas of the perfect day, I ensure that you will have an original and memorable ceremony.
Together, we create a ceremony that is made for you. Venue, music, texts, rituals, style and tone - it all starts with your preferences and ideas. Based on my experience, I can bring in elements from all kinds of sources, religious or not.
I am based in North London, but happy to travel beyond London and abroad. As I grew up in the Netherlands, I also conduct ceremonies in Dutch.
If you are considering a celebrant for your special day, please feel free to get in touch to see if I am the right person to conduct your ceremony.
It started with awareness … When I first met a family where the wife of the person who had died was living with dementia, I realised I did not know much about the disease. Her children were not sure if she should come to the funeral as they thought she would not remember and may[…]
Real wedding: a personalised wedding ceremony with a Dutch touch
Weddings come in all shapes and sizes. Big, tiny, lavish, luxury, simple, creative, serious, hilarious, traditional, unconventional, loud and still. In the ‘real weddings’ blog posts I describe how I work with couples to create and conduct bespoke wedding ceremonies to celebrate this special moment in their lives. The below is an impression of the[…]
Quite a few funerals I conduct are related to dementia. Either the person who has died or a living family member has been diagnosed with the disease. This raises specific questions and thoughts around funeral arrangements, such as: “Should we take mum to the funeral? She will not remember anything of it” “We don’t need[…]
Cheers for Hornsey Town Hall, an iconic community building in the heart of Crouch End that is closing its doors for redevelopment. Screenshot from video by Sugarsweet Productions The vast majority of the ceremonies I lead are for people: babies who are given a warm welcome into the world; couples who commit their love to[…]
Meghan Markle’s wedding bouquet included forget-me-nots, Diana, Princess of Wales’, favourite flowers. Prince Harry had handpicked them. I was quite moved by this detail. A subtle, gentle, heartfelt and truly personal way for Harry and Meghan to honour Harry’s mother. Honouring a continuous bond When you are getting married you would like to be[…]
Sculpture on grave at Zorgvlied Cemetery, Amsterdam Discussing your own funeral is not something you typically do at the dinner table, at a friend’s birthday party or during a coffee break at work. For many people, death is something they rather not think or talk about. It might evoke fear, sad feelings or images[…]
Children grieve too but they do this differently than adults. Unlike adults, children have a limited ability to express their feelings, thoughts and memories verbally. Alternatively, play can be an effective and safe way for them to give messages on how they feel. Bonnie Jansen, who teaches at a primary school in the Netherlands and[…]
“I am not sure if I should take my children to the funeral. What do you think?” It’s a question parents often ask me as a funeral celebrant. If prepared well, attending a funeral can be a healthy, healing and positive experience for children. The following feedback from a parent explains how attending a funeral has helped[…]
A precious moment at S&R’s wedding. Photo by Paul Wilkinson Photography It has been a great honour (and lots of fun!) to be interviewed by award-winning wedding blog ‘Engaged and Ready.’ If you don’t know this blog yet, check it out. It’s filled with advice and inspiration for wedding ceremony guiding and planning, life-living,[…]
Funeral at Willow Row Barrow, Cambridgeshire On a chilly but bright autumn morning, the family and friends of David Sinclair gathered to both celebrate his life and acknowledge his death at the place he had chosen as his final resting place, Willow Row Barrow, in the Cambridgeshire countryside. It was the first time that a[…]
More than one in five pregnancies ends in a miscarriage. That’s about a quarter of a million in the UK each year. Everyone who has had or is going to a pregnancy loss or miscarriage will experience this in their own way. Not everyone will feel the same.[…]
A few weeks ago, I went on a funeral field trip to The Netherlands. I was curious to learn more about the funeral practices in my home country. The Dutch are well known for the relaxed, personal and innovative way of dealing with their dead. What can de UK funeral world learn from their neighbours?[…]
*NEW DATE: Sat 20th October 2018, 10am-1pm, Portsoken House, 155-157 Minories, EC3N 1LJ, London. More info: firstname.lastname@example.org Caroline Lloyd (aka The Grief Geek) and I have developed the training ‘Grief foundations for funeral professionals’. In this training you will learn what grief is and how to support the bereaved. The training offers a mix of theory, interactive discussions and exercises. The[…]
The world is in despair. But there’s a cure: rituals. Find out how four ritual super powers will save the world. Community Ritual North London, June 2016 2016 has been a turbulent year and many people are concerned about what will happen in 2017. The world is shivering. Brexit and Trump have been no[…]