Seven Blessings: a modern interpretation of a beautiful Jewish ritual

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One of the most precious things of being a celebrant is learning a lot about the richness of rituals and ceremonies from all over the world. As an independent celebrant, I deliver ceremonies for people from all kinds of backgrounds: secular, religious and interfaith. My starting point is always with the people I meet and their unique story. If any beliefs or rituals are part of that story, I help them in incorporating these meaningful elements into the ceremony.

I recently delivered a wedding ceremony for a couple of which the groom had a Jewish background.  Although he is not practising the religion, the groom and bride wanted to honour these roots and the underlying values that are still meaningful to them.

We decided to incorporate a modern interpretation of the Seven Blessings. The Seven Blessings are traditionally shared at Jewish wedding ceremonies. The blessings are adapted from ancient rabbinic teachings, beginning with the blessing over the wine and ending with a communal expression of joy. The blessings are about the creation of the world, the creation of humankind, the unity of loving people and the joy of marriage.

The traditional Hebrew transliteration, as well as some modern English variations on the blessings, can be found here.

The couple chose an interpretation of which the source in unknown. We found it at a forum of a US wedding planning websiteFor each of the blessings, we highlighted the central theme: love, a loving home, humor and play, wisdom, health, art and community.

We asked seven family members to read a blessing each, and to add a personal text. Some family members took a humorous approach, whereas others preferred a more serious angle. This resulted in seven beautiful, very personal and moving blessings, bringing emotional tears to the eyes of the bride and groom.

1. Love

May you be blessed with love. May your admiration, appreciation and understanding of each other foster a love that is passionate, tranquil and real.  May this love between you be strong and enduring, and bring peace into your lives.

2. A loving home

May you be blessed with a loving home filled with warmth, humour and compassion.  May you create a family together that honours traditions old and new.  May you teach your children to have equal respect for themselves and others, and instil in them the value of learning and tikkun olam (making the world a better place).

3. Humour and play

May you be best friends and work together to build a relationship of substance and quality. May your sense of humour and playful spirit continue to enliven your relationship.  May you respect each other’s individual personality and perspective, and give each other room to grow in fulfilling your dreams.

4. Wisdom

May you be blessed with wisdom. May you continually learn from one another and from the world. Together, may you grow, deepening your knowledge and understanding of each other and of your journey through life.

5. Health

May you be blessed with health. May life bring you wholeness of mind, body and spirit. May you keep each other well-balanced and grounded, and live long that you may share many happy years together.

6. Art, beauty, creativity

May your life be blessed with the art and beauty of this world. May your creative aspirations and experiences find expression, inspire you and bring you joy and fulfilment.  May you find happiness together in adventures big and small, and something to celebrate each day of your lives.

7. Community

May you be blessed with community. May you always be blessed with the awareness that you are an essential part of a circle of family and friends. May there always be within this group love, trust, support and laughter, and may there be many future occasions for rejoicing in their company.

10 thoughts on “Seven Blessings: a modern interpretation of a beautiful Jewish ritual

    • Thanks and good luck with the info. Please let me know if you have any other questions about contemporary rituals and ceremonies. I am happy to answer your questions!

  • Hello Rosalie and thank you for this passage. I am interested in incorporating the Seven Blessings in to my ceremony, and am curious- at what point in the ceremony did you do the reading? And- did each family member deliver their own, or was it delivered by a speaker on behalf of the group?

    Thank you! Amiee

    • Hi Amiee, thanks for visiting my website and for reading this article. We did the Blessings before the vows and exchange of rings. Each family member delivered their own. One did this even on Skype as she couldn’t attend the wedding in person! Don’t hesitate to contact me should you have any further questions. Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding, wishing you and your partner a wonderful day and a very happy life together. Rosalie x

  • Thank you Rosalie, those are wonderful blessings indeed. My son who is Jewish asked to say these blessings at his ceremony coming soon. What an honor and how appropriate that these blessings are so exactly what every member and friends would wish for the new bride and groom. Mazel-Tov.

    • Thanks for your kind words. Wishing the newly-weds all the love in the world. May these blessings guide them on their way forward.

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