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How to have a dementia-friendly funeral

Quite a few funerals I conduct are related to dementia. Either the person who has died or a living family member has been diagnosed with the disease. This raises specific questions and thoughts around funeral arrangements, such as: “Should we take mum to the funeral? She will not remember anything of it” “We don’t need[…]

The Goodbye-box: a playful way to help children grieve

  Children grieve too but they do this differently than adults. Unlike adults, children have a limited ability to express their feelings, thoughts and memories verbally. Alternatively, play can be an effective and safe way for them to give messages on how they feel. Bonnie Jansen, who teaches at a primary school in the Netherlands and[…]

How to include young children in funerals

“I am not sure if I should take my children to the funeral. What do you think?” It’s a question parents often ask me as a funeral celebrant. If prepared well, attending a funeral can be a healthy, healing and positive experience for children. The following feedback from a parent explains how attending a funeral has helped[…]

Why we need to rethink funeral spaces

Funeral at Willow Row Barrow, Cambridgeshire   On a chilly but bright autumn morning, the family and friends of David Sinclair gathered to both celebrate his life and acknowledge his death at the place he had chosen as his final resting place, Willow Row Barrow, in the Cambridgeshire countryside. It was the first time that a[…]

The future of funerals: what the UK funeral industry can learn from the Dutch

A few weeks ago, I went on a funeral field trip to The Netherlands. I was curious to learn more about the funeral practices in my home country. The Dutch are well known for the relaxed, personal and innovative way of dealing with their dead. What can de UK funeral world learn from their neighbours?[…]

Training: Grief Foundations for Funeral Professionals

*NEW DATE: Sat 20th October 2018, 10am-1pm, Portsoken House, 155-157 Minories, EC3N 1LJ, London. More info: rosalie@ritualstoday.co.uk Caroline Lloyd (aka The Grief Geek) and I have developed the training ‘Grief foundations for funeral professionals’. In this training you will learn what grief is and how to support the bereaved. The training offers a mix of theory, interactive discussions and exercises. The[…]