Personalised and meaningful ceremonies for any life-event.
Weddings and renewals
Are you preparing for a wedding and dreaming of a unique wedding ceremony, reflecting you and your partner’s personalities? Whatever your background, belief, sex and style preferences, I can help you in making your ceremony a unique event that fits you perfectly.
Are you young parents and is it your wish to welcome your little one in a memorable naming ceremony? Nowadays, family units can take any shape. I can help you in creating a contemporary ceremony that is truly yours.
Have you recently experienced a loss, or would you like to mark a new beginning? Divorce, job loss, illness – I can help in creating a healing ceremony that will help in acceptance, forgiveness and finding the road ahead.
Have you lost a loved one and would you like to celebrate their life in a dignified funeral ceremony? Together, we can create a beautiful ceremony that reflects the beliefs of the person that has passed away: religious, spiritual or secular.
Creates personalised ceremonies and rituals for moments that matter.
It’s my passion to create personalised and meaningful rituals for any life-event. By carefully listening to your personal stories and your ideas of the perfect day, I ensure that you will have an original and memorable ceremony.
Together, we create a ceremony that is made for you. Venue, music, texts, rituals, style and tone - it all starts with your preferences and ideas. Based on my experience, I can bring in elements from all kinds of sources, religious or not.
I am based in North London, but happy to travel beyond London and abroad. As I grew up in the Netherlands, I also conduct ceremonies in Dutch.
If you are considering a celebrant for your special day, please feel free to get in touch to see if I am the right person to conduct your ceremony.
What others say
Children grieve too but they do this differently than adults. Unlike adults, children have a limited ability to express their feelings, thoughts and memories verbally. Alternatively, play can be an effective and safe way for them to give messages on how they feel. Bonnie Jansen, who teaches at a primary school in the Netherlands and[…]
“I am not sure if I should take my children to the funeral. What do you think?” It’s a question parents often ask me as a funeral celebrant. If prepared well, attending a funeral can be a healthy, healing and positive experience for children. The following feedback from a parent explains how attending a funeral has helped[…]
A precious moment at S&R’s wedding. Photo by Paul Wilkinson Photography It has been a great honour (and lots of fun!) to be interviewed by award-winning wedding blog ‘Engaged and Ready.’ If you don’t know this blog yet, check it out. It’s filled with advice and inspiration for wedding ceremony guiding and planning, life-living,[…]
Funeral at Willow Row Barrow, Cambridgeshire On a chilly but bright autumn morning, the family and friends of David Sinclair gathered to both celebrate his life and acknowledge his death at the place he had chosen as his final resting place, Willow Row Barrow, in the Cambridgeshire countryside. It was the first time that a[…]
More than one in five pregnancies ends in a miscarriage. That’s about a quarter of a million in the UK each year. Everyone who has had or is going to a pregnancy loss or miscarriage will experience this in their own way. Not everyone will feel the same. In[…]
A few weeks ago, I went on a funeral field trip to The Netherlands. I was curious to learn more about the funeral practices in my home country. The Dutch are well known for the relaxed, personal and innovative way of dealing with their dead. What can de UK funeral world learn from their neighbours?[…]
*NEW DATE: Sat 20th January 2018, 10am-1pm, Portsoken House, London. More info: firstname.lastname@example.org Caroline Lloyd (aka The Grief Geek) and I have developed the training ‘Grief foundations for funeral professionals’. In this training you will learn what grief is and how to support the bereaved. The training offers a mix of theory, interactive discussions and exercises. The training is[…]
The world is in despair. But there’s a cure: rituals. Find out how four ritual super powers will save the world. Community Ritual North London, June 2016 2016 has been a turbulent year and many people are concerned about what will happen in 2017. The world is shivering. Brexit and Trump have been no[…]
We are approaching the end of 2016. It has been a turbulent year. How do you look back on 2016? What are the things you would like to leave behind? What would you like to take with you in the year to come? These questions came to my mind when I was browsing through the pictures[…]
What music would you like to have played at your funeral? One of your favourite songs? A traditional hymn? Should it be sombre, or rather uplifting and cheerful? Not many people plan their funeral and in our society it’s not something we usually discuss over a cuppa or a pint of beer. Which is[…]
Thursday, 8th September I will be attending the biggest party in the funeral world. At a glamorous lunch in London, a diverse bunch of people will be celebrating outstanding and innovative initiatives in the world of death and dying. One of the most exciting parts of the event is the announcement of the winners of the Good Funeral Awards[…]
“Going into the tomb, they saw a young man in a white robe seated on the right side; and they were startled. But he said to them, “Don’t be alarmed! You are looking for Jesus of Nazareth (…) He isn’t here. Look, here’s the place where they laid him. Go, tell his friends, that[…]
Update: Friday 17th June I will be hosting a Death Café at Priory Park Café (London, N8) for Crouch End Festival. Click here for more information and sign-up. When I enthusiastically told a friend that I had been to a Death Café, she looked a bit puzzled. ‘A Death Café? That sounds really[…]
Earlier today, I opened a box that had been hidden away in a forgotten corner of a cupboard. The box contained a collection of letters from my former piano teacher. The first one was dated in 1986. I was eleven years old and had started advanced piano lessons with another teacher. The last letter was[…]
When you design your own wedding ceremony, you can involve any ritual and symbol that is meaningful to you. Read, for example, in one of my other blogs, how a multi-faith couple included a personalised ritual, inspired by the Jewish wedding ceremony, to their special day. However, you don’t need to invent the wheel yourself.[…]